I’m better than you in bed

A new study published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found that most people think they’re having better sex than average. People who are in a committed relationship are more likely to think highly of their own and their partner’s performance in the bedroom. This of course, is a statistical impossibility. As the study authors, David C. de Jong and Harry T. Reis, conclude: ”We demonstrated that these construals are to some extent illusory, in light of the logical impossibility that a majority of people could have sex lives that are better than average.”

So why do we think we’re better in bed than everyone else? According to the study report, it’s a common survival tactic. People are generally ”motivated to construct belief systems about their world and experiences that cast themselves and their relationships in a positive light”. Believing your significant other is your ideal sexual partner is part of convincing yourself you have made the right choice. So you just keep on believing.


Study reference:

de Jong, D. and Reis, H.T., “We do it best: commitment and positive construals of sex”, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, Vol. 34, No. 3, 2015, pp. 181-202 181 © 2015 Guilford Publications, Inc.