A new study published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found that most people think they’re having better sex than average. People who are in a committed relationship are more likely to think highly of their own and their partner’s performance in the bedroom. This of course, is a statistical impossibility. As the study authors, David C. de Jong and Harry T. Reis, conclude: ”We demonstrated that these construals are to some extent illusory, in light of the logical impossibility that a majority of people could have sex lives that are better than average.”
So why do we think we’re better in bed than everyone else? According to the study report, it’s a common survival tactic. People are generally ”motivated to construct belief systems about their world and experiences that cast themselves and their relationships in a positive light”. Believing your significant other is your ideal sexual partner is part of convincing yourself you have made the right choice. So you just keep on believing.
de Jong, D. and Reis, H.T., “We do it best: commitment and positive construals of sex”, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, Vol. 34, No. 3, 2015, pp. 181-202 181 © 2015 Guilford Publications, Inc.